Feeling of love is not always expressed through words. However, the relationship will be more stable if you and your spouse also say it explicitly.
Before you say "I love you" to your spouse there are four things you should consider. Especially if you are revealing your spouse first.
1. The right time
Saying "I Love You" is not something to be said when you and your spouse in intimate situations because, if your spouse does not have the same feeling, not only you feel embarrassed, but also will feel hurt and relationships can be destroyed. Say when you really feel confident with your feelings.
2. Do not rush
The expression of feelings of love is not to thrown on a second date or third. Do not be too quick to express, even though your spouse has said it. Tell feeling of love when you are really ready.
3. Do not follow the mood
You would feel so flattered, proud, and happy with the attention and affection given by your spouse. That does not mean the real feeling of love. It could be only a moment euphoria. Think anything carefully before you say "I love you" if you only follow the mood that has been affected by your spouse words.
4. Know the risks
If you say it before him/her, know the risks. He/she could neither say anything nor reply to your expression and statement. Even she/he could say frankly that he/she does not fall in love with you. So, prepare yourself to face his/her reaction to your words “I Love You”.
Re-written by Ai Cahyati